Flowers on Gravestones (Musing)

Why do we put flowers on gravestones?

I hadn’t really thought of it before, but what a juxtaposition. It’s a beautiful image. Something alive and beautiful adorning something that represents death and loss. Is it for balance that we do that as creatures? A dampening of the hard and terrible and tragic? A reminder that light and sun still exist and perhaps there are better days ahead?

The problem is that those little bouquets and bits of beauty don’t last long. I walk by a wilted or brown flower bunch hanging limply from a gravestone every so often and feel it deeply. Loss is a tough color to paint over.

But our capacity to look for good; to temper hard with beauty; is deep and corporate and powerful. We keep doing it.

I want to be more willing to put flowers on my gravestones.


2 thought on “Flowers on Gravestones (Musing)”

  1. Chris

    First, I love realizing things we do as humans are weird – I love those moments when we ask ourselves all of the sudden, “why?”

    I also love flowers on gravestones. Even dead ones, because they are ultimately a symbol of grief and of love. Even if the flowers are dead, they were flourishing just a couple days ago. Someone had the heart to lay them there.

    There’s a quote from a marvel TV show: “What is grief, if not love persevering?”
    Flowers on a gravestone is a symbol of love persevering.


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